There are so many things that today’s society tells us we must be, especially for women. Commercials, billboards, movies, anywhere you look these days there are signs, messages, pictures of “real women”. To be skinny, beautiful, stylish, and have sex appeal are all things that we are told that we are to be like; things we are told we get our identity from. But this just isn’t true and it is setting us up for what feels like ultimate failure and self-hatred if we don’t measure up.
I have struggled with my identity for such a long time. I was bound by being what the world wanted me to be. To be smart, but not too smart, to be beautiful, skinny, and mind blowingly attractive. I never measured up though. I never felt beautiful and if I tried wearing making-up it just made me feel even worse. I played basketball most of my life, but once I was out of high school that meant no more working out, which meant added weight. It was weight that I could never gain control of. I would fluctuate constantly, never knowing if my jeans would fit or not. It was a pretty off time of life. I wanted to be independent and take care of myself, but that just left me feeling less feminine than I’ve ever felt. And that is saying a lot, because I was a tomboy all throughout junior high and high school. It just never added up, it never worked out like it was portrayed to from society’s point of view.
But then came Jesus! He stepped in and very slowly and gently started working on my heart to repair the damage that had been done. He spoke life, truth, and identity into me. Now, don’t get me wrong, this is still very much an everyday battle that I am persevering through, but I have found hope and freedom.
All throughout the Bible can we find God speaking identity into His people.
• We are children of God (John 1:12)
• We are accepted (Romans 15:7)
• We are no longer slaves to sin (Romans 6:6)
• We are made in the likeness of God (Genesis 1:27)
• We are chosen, a royal priesthood, God’s special possession (1 Peter 2:9)
• We are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14)
• We are known (Jeremiah 1:5)
• We are redeemed (Isaiah 43:1)
And the list could go on and on.
Anytime you are feeling less than or defeated or you just aren’t sure about who you are, run to the Word of God. It overflows with love, hope, and truth that will set you back on your feet. You are loved more than you will ever know on this side of Heaven, walk in the confidence of that. It is something we can be doing together, because I know I need the daily reminder too!
Stay in the Word, meditate on it, memorize it, and ask God to see yourself as He sees you. You will start to walk out who you truly are with confidence and ultimately will be giving glory to our good good Father!